You might be familiar with common
traits of husbands from different countries in Europe, or even different states
in the United States. But do you know much about how men with African roots are
raised to treat their partners? Family and marital dynamics in African cultures
are varied and interesting, and the relationship between a husband and wife is
sacred. Here are 10 reasons a man with African roots would make a great husband.
He’ll do anything to protect your
family
In most African tribes and cultures, anything that threatens or offends a
man’s family is immediately a threat or offense to him. You’ll never feel alone
in your battles ,your husband will fight them like they’re his own.
Your relationship is a building
block to him
In many African cultures, the marriage between a man and a woman is a
crucial building block for a man’s life. After being married, in many African
cultures, a man is then able to go after other pursuits. Your relationship
won’t just be as something “fun” or seen as an accessory, it will be seen as
crucial.
He has a good relationship with
his parents
In African cultures, men take care of not only their wives and children, but
also their parents and even grandparents. If you’re tired of meeting men who
don’t have good relationships with their parents, that probably won’t be an
issue with an African man
You’ll get a big family
African families stay very close. An African man feels as obligated to help
his third cousin as he does his immediate siblings. When you marry an African
man you’ll instantly inherit a large, close-knit and supportive community.
He feels responsible for the
wellbeing of your family
In African cultures, the man is the provider of the family. There is no
doubt in the mind of an African man that he is directly responsible for the
wellbeing and happiness of his family. He’ll think about how all of his
decisions affect you, not just himself.
He is proud to be a husband
Whereas in many western cultures, men are taught to see marriage as some
sort or prison which sometimes takes away their freedom but this can’t be said
of the african man who sees it as a means to new freedom. Others see him as a
man now instead of a boy. He is proud to say he has a wife and children, rather
than sheepish about it. In African cultures, your success is measured more by
how strong and happy your family is than anything else.
He’ll be shunned if he gets out of
line
In African cultures, if a man mistreats his wife, the rest of the community
tends to shun him and considers him useless. Since one of his most important
roles is as husband and father, if he does something bad for the family, his
community truly does see him as a failure
He appreciates a home-cooked meal
Western cultures have learned to appreciate endless pasta cards from chain
restaurants, great deals on ready-made chicken from the deli and celebrity-run
restaurants. And that has turned the homemade meal into something second rate
and boring. But an African man really values a good homemade meal.
He’s open to learning
If a man moved directly from Africa to the United States, he already accepts
that life will be very different and there will be a lot to become accustomed
to, so he will be open to learning from you!
Nurturing doesn’t look needy
Many women from the western world have been taught that being nurturing to a
man can look needy or like taking care of him when he’s sick or just being
particularly affectionate. But African men are very comfortable with being
nurtured, and in fact crave it!
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